The Five Agreements: Be Impeccable with Your Word

Just a few words from me before I share with you from The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. I know I have a lot of work to do for myself in this area of being impeccable with my word.  It’s  a struggle, watching what I say.  However, there is another side that I can ascertain that is blocking me from getting to far each time I take a step forward, I notice there are steps back once again.

Let me see if I can explain.  I noticed a few months ago that a few of the clients I was working for were blocking me from having an oral conversations with them.  This isn’t new we all know everyone is hiding their selves behind email, texts and Facebook. It makes me feel like hell will freeze over before someone can pick up a phone or meet in person to actually begin treating each other, once again, like we are all human beings, needing to see and interact in person with each other.  All this hiding behind electronics really must stop.

Part of being impeccable with your word and as the Buddhist’s beliefs of Mindfulness of Speech go hand-in-hand with honoring another that sometimes you must step forward and pick up the phone, or go see someone in person and have a verbal discussion instead of hiding behind your text, emails and Facebook. (Don’t even get me started on the verbal games that are played once you do finally reach someone. Do not say you are sorry when you clearly not. All the lame excuses are just an insult!)

The people I have been dealing with and who would not be respectful enough of me to return phone calls, really should be stepping forward and looking at themselves and the classes they are teaching to others.  How can you teach something you are not aware you cannot do?  A person who teaches can walk side by side with another on their journey but tell someone to do what you are clearly not doing, is not ethical.

I just had to laugh at one person offering a communications class and who can’t even be bothered to have a verbal conversation with me. I have come across this four times since last August.  Instead of stepping up and returning my messages I lost several clients. Once I don’t want to play games and pretend then I don’t get to earn money.  Interesting.

That really intrigues me especially knowing the business these people are in, that why aren’t they strong enough and impeccable enough to pick up the phone or better yet meet with me in person instead of hiding. Its interesting to notice when I make action to let it be known I want to be seen and heard, that the other person hides behind lies.

I am curious all the places this plays out in their lives, as well. I know in my life I have been pondering it for several months and considering what the lessons are because I want to be sure I get it clear and with clarity this time. I am so frustrated with people assuming they can not see me or listen to me and think it’s alright.

I welcome comments to this page.

The following is from the Five Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz:

The first agreement is to be impeccable with your word.  it sounds very simple, but it is very, very powerful. Your word is the power you have to create.

It is through the word that you manifest everything. What you dream, what you feel, and what you are, will all be manifested through the word.

The word is a force; it is the power you have to express and communicate, to think, and thereby to create the events in your life.  The word is the most powerful tool you have as a human; it is the tool of magic.

Depending upon how it is used, the word can set you free, or it can enslave you even more than you know.  Your word is pure magic, and misuse of your word is black magic.

The word is so powerful that one word can change a life or destroy the lives of millions of people.  The seeds are opinions, ideas, and concepts.

Every human mind is fertile, but only for those kinds of seeds it is prepared for.  One fear or doubt planted in our mind can create an endless drama of events.  We cast spells all the time with our opinions.

By hooking our attention, the word can enter our mind and change a whole belief for better for for worse.

Impeccability means without sin.  A sin is anything that you do which goes against yourself.  Everything you feel or believe or say that goes against yourself is a sin.

Being impeccable is not going against yourself.  When you are impeccable you take responsibility for your actions, but you do not judge or blame yourself.

Sin begins with rejection of yourself. Self-rejection is the biggest sin that you commit.

If I love myself I will express that love in my interactions with you, and then I am being impeccable with the word, because that action will produce a like reaction.  If I love you, then you will love me.  If I insult you, you will insult me.  If I have gratitude for you, you will have gratitude for me.  If I’m selfish with you, you will be selfish with me.  If I use the word to put a spell on yo,  you are going to put a spell on me.

We have learned to lie as a habit of our communication with others and more importantly with ourselves. We use the word to curse, to blame, to find guilt, to destroy.

Mostly we use the word to spread our personal poison–to express anger, jealousy, envy, and hate. We create chaos with the word.

We misuse the word so often, and this misuse is how we create and perpetuate the dream of hell.

. . .we are using black magic all the time without knowing that our word is magic at all.

Whenever we hear an opinion and believe it, we make an agreement, and it becomes part of our belief system.  If you accept the opinion, it becomes an agreement now, and you put all your power into that opinion.  That opinion becomes black magic.

The only thing that can break a spell it to make a new agreement based on truth.  The truth is the most important part of being impeccable with your word.  Only the truth will set you free.

Impeccability of the word will also give you immunity from anyone putting a negative spell on you.  You will only receive a negative idea if your mind is fertile ground for that idea. When you become impeccable with your word, your mind is no longer fertile ground for words that come from black magic.

How much you love yourself and how you feel about yourself are directly proportionate to the quality and integrity of your word.

Be impeccable with your word.  It is very powerful.

Use white magic, beginning with yourself.  Tell yourself how wonderful you are, how great you are.  Tell yourself how much you love yourself.

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